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Secret of Happy life | choose present over past and future

 Choose your present over past and future | secret of a happy life Life is just like a lesson we learn, gain knowledge, try to adjust in new environment or phase of life and throughout our life we learn we implement and this is how life goes on.  Sometimes we achieve our goals sometimes we don't, sometimes we fail and at another time we got success. Life is like ups and down, there is happiness as well as sadnesses.  If you are facing problems, have financial issues, have family trouble, have social pressures, dear this is what life is.  Try to live in a current situation, because you can give best of you and you have situations in your hand. Not to look at past and future because you have nothing to do with that and ofcourse you cannot. If past is full of regrets then try to understand that you can't do anything what you have done wrong in past. Try to learn from mistake and move on.  And why looking at future ? Achieve your goals one by one, have patience and you will get you

Parenting styles | children behavior

 In shaping and molding the behavior of a child parents play an important role. Parents are responsible for giving a child better environment, teaching appropriate language,and building positive approach in a child. Child learn simply by observing  the environment around him. 

In psychology we usually talk about parenting styles and it's impact on child's personality and behavior. Here are four types of parenting styles including authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and neglected. As their name shows the nature of parenting styles.

Authoritative parents set rules, and they use consequences, but they also take their children’s opinions into account. They understand their children’s feelings while also making it clear that the adults are ultimately in charge. They have positive discipline strategies to reinforce good behavior by praising their child. Children with parents who demonstrate this style tend to be self-disciplined and well motivated.

Authoritarian parenting 

In this style parents impose authority over child without any exception. Children have to follow the rules and fulfill the task. Parents used to punish and do not focus on maintaining the discipline. Child did not learn about problem solving attitude in this kind of environment. So rather than teach a child how to make better choices, they’re invested in making kids feel sorry for their mistakes. Children of authoritarian parents ultimately develop self esteem issues 

Permissive Parenting

In this style, parents are seen as very lenient to their child, they forgive them and give privileges to their child if he or she asks for. They used to motivate and encourage their children to talk with them about their issues, but they typically don’t put much effort into discouraging poor choices or bad behavior.

Uninvolved or neglected Parenting

Uninvolved parents tend to have little knowledge of what their children are doing. There tend to be few rules. Children may not receive much guidance, nurturing, and parental attention. Uninvolved parents expect children to raise themselves. They don’t devote much time or energy to meeting children’s basic needs. These parents are.may be those in which both mother and father are working and they give no time to their child. Children with uninvolved parents are likely to struggle with self-esteem issues. They tend to perform poorly in school. They also exhibit frequent behavior problems and rank low in happiness.

Parenting is no doubt very difficult task and it takes alot of time and energy. This post is especially for the parents and also creating awareness among them so that they look out their attitude and their parenting style.


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